Friday, March 19, 2010

5 Tips to Building Confidence

Building-ConfidenceYou may feel that many aspects of your environment are out of your control; It’s important to remember the ONE thing you can control is your REACTION.

By building confidence you’ll have be able to maintain a more positive attitude which will help you to “Let Go” of things you have no control over. Learn to avoid obstacles that tear down your self confidence.

5 Tips to Building Confidence:

Building Confidence Tip#1 – Identify Your Skills and Strengths

You’ll want to take a long good look at your self!  Know what your strengths are.  Know what you enjoy doing.  A lot of people make the mistake of trying to build on their weaknesses …. Why do this?  It’s much more beneficial to FOCUS on your strengths and build upon them to become the GREAT person you are!

The solutions to your self confidence issues lay within you – NOT outside of you.  It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or believes.  In matter of fact you shouldn’t concern yourself with what others think.  They are creating their life’s.  You need to concentrate on your own.

YOU have talents that make you very uniqe and special.  Find your talents and learn how to use them.

Building Confidence Tip#2 – Associate with Winners

If you want to be a winner, learn to hang out with winners. The people you associate with can alter your mindset in a BIG way!  Hang out with winners and soak up some of their winning energy!!!

You’ve heard the saying “Misery loves company”, it’s so true.  If you’re surrounded by whiners, complainers, backstabbers and gossipers – guess what?  You’ll soon be whining, complaining etc.  If you can’t avoid being around them then you absolutely MUST spend just as much time if not more time with positive, energetic, supportive, successful, and honest people.

Building Confidence Tip#3 – Practice Positive Self Talk

You are talking to yourself every second of every day.  You just might not realize everything you are saying to yourself.   All self talk is – is your thoughts and you can learn to control them.

When someone compliments you, say “Thank You” and BELIEVE what they said.  You are a beautiful, incredible loving human being who is deserving.

Have you ever told yourself that you were unworthy, undeserving, stupid, unlovable or ???  When you tell yourself these false beliefs they run over and over in your mind – destroying your confidence.

Be conscious of your thoughts.  Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.  Start telling yourself You are worthy, deserving, smart and lovable. 

You create your reality with your thoughts and words so choose them carefully.

Building Confidence Tip#4 – Set Realistic Goals

You know yourself better than anyone else does.  You know what you love to do and what you try to steer clear of.  Set your goals accordingly.  Goals need to be realistic.  You’re a smart person, you know if you’re 5′ 6″ that your not going to wake up tomorrow being 6′ tall.  You know that you’re not going to wake up tomorrow 20 pounds lighter.

Celebrate the achievement of each step of each goal when you reach them. Don’t set the bar too high or you’ll be disappointed and lose motivation to try again. 

There are no failures – just experiences and your reactions to them.” Tom Krause

Building Confidence Tip#5 – Be You

Feel your feelings.  Learn to express your creativity.  Evaluate you on reactions to your experiences.  Many of your reactions have been taught to you from “well meaning people in your life.”

Learn to listen to your inner voice.  Don’t be afraid to say what you want to say.  Tell jokes, write stories, place classified ads – Do what you need to do to express the true you. Tell people when they are behaving in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.  Saying what you need to say may mean hearing yourself for the very first time.

Finding your voice means being honest with yourself and portraying yourself honestly to others.  Sharing your thoughts and feelings may help others to avoid some of the pain you have experienced.

According to Jack Canfield, you will be able to “produce miracles” with the life-changing ideas you’re about to learn with Maximum Confidence: 10 Steps to Extreme Self-Esteem.  That’s because when you feel good about yourself, you attract the people and events that empower you for more success than you’ve ever dreamed possible.

In this amazing audio program, you’ll learn to develop winning habits that will pay off for you everyday. You’ll discover how to celebrate and capitalize on your strengths and how to accept your weaknesses without guilt or remorse. Get Maximum Confidence by Jack Canfield now.

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