What are affirmations?

Simply put affirmations are your own desires and goals that you repeat to yourself.

The idea is that you are embedding these thoughts/ideas into your subconscious. Once embedded these thoughts become beliefs and you will be inspired to take the required action to make these beliefs become reality.

By repeating your affirmations several times daily you are activating the Law of Attraction and you will be able to see the abundance of opportunities around you.

One of the most important things to remember when creating your affirmations is to use the present tense – not the future tense. The future does not make you act now. Stating affirmations in the future tells your subconscious it’s ok to procrastinate. By stating your affirmation in the present tense, you’re telling your subconscious to ACT NOW to make the affirmation a reality.

Who should use affirmations?

Anyone who dares to dream. If you are labeled as a dreamer than affirmations are for you! For affirmations to work you’ll need to commit to take action.

Why do some affirmations fail?

If you are skeptical or a black and white thinker affirmations probably won’t work for you. Why? Because your inner voices tell you they will not work, so you will sabotage yourself without giving the affirmations a fair chance.

• Affirmation only serves to enforce what you do actually believe is possible. If you continuously repeat I am a millionaire and are working a minimum wage job struggling to pay your bills – Your subconscious is yelling at you each time you say you’re a millionaire …
  “What are you talking about? Are you crazy? You barely have enough money for milk – how can you say you’re a millionaire?”
• Another reason that affirmations may fail is because you don’t really want what you are affirming. You might be saying “I am smoke free”, but in reality you do not want to give up the enjoyment you get from smoking.
• You are using affirmations half heatedly, saying them sometimes, but not making a habit of it – Or you’re affirmations are in someone else’s words. Words that you normally don’t speak.
• You are stating your affirmations in the future. Your mind only knows NOW. If you say tomorrow, you’re subconscious will consistently put off what it is you are trying to affirm. Your affirmations need to be personal and in the present.

How do you make affirmations your reality?

1. They are your affirmations – Make them personal!
2. State your affirmations in the present
3. Repeat your affirmations to yourself daily – preferably out loud.
4. Visualize your affirmations. See it, Feel it, hear it, taste it … Be there
5. Avoid negative words such as “I will not”. Your subconscious does not recognize negative
6. Use the words “I choose”. “I choose to weigh 120 pounds”. “I choose to eat healthy”. “I choose to double my income” “I choose to exercise daily”.
7. Instead of saying “I am worthy” state “(your loved ones name) finds me worthy” this is a trick to get your mind to believe that you are worthy if you are currently unable to accept the “I am” at the present time.

Marie Diamond goes a step further by explaining not only how to create your affirmations – but tells you to write your affirmations on 3 X 5 cards and place them in specific locations in your home depending on your own personal Law of Attraction Number. Download your free copy of Marie Diamonds report “Personal Law of Attraction Number” and begin creating your ideal future today!

The voices in my head tell me …

We all get a kick out the saying “The voices in my head tell me …” statements. This statement isn’t too far from the truth in regards to how your mind works.

Your thoughts are constant. In other words you “talk to yourself” ALL day – every day. These thoughts are the “voices in your head.” You’re probably familiar with the various commercials and cartoons that illustrate an angel on one shoulder whispering in the ear and a devil on the other shoulder whispering in the other hear.

This is the way your mind works. You have one voice telling you:

* You can do it
* You are strong and confident
* Go for your dreams

And then you have that other little voice in your head telling you:

* You can’t do that! Are you kidding me? What happens if you fail? You’ll be labeled a laughing stock
* Do you really want people knowing how weak you are? You are not as confident as others. People will know that you lack confidence.
* Remember when you tried something familiar and failed? Do you want people to know you’re a failure? It’s scary to take a risk.

This is simply the inner struggle of your mind.

The first voice is your inner spirit. It’s telling you your dreams and inspirations. It really wants to guide you in achieving all of your dreams. Your inner spirit wants you to open up the box and jump out of it with arms spread open to embrace all that you can receive and all that you can accomplish.

The second voice is ego. The job of your ego is to keep you safe. However the recordings that the ego relies on – are not necessarily true. These recordings are made of everything that you’ve been told, everything that you have seen and everything that you have experienced. The ego is normally full of self-limiting beliefs. The ego wants you to stay in the box where it’s warm and comfy.

This is where habits are formed. Your habits can either help you or hinder you. They either keep you in a vicious cycle of doing the same things over and over again – while hoping for different results. Or your habits can help you create the life you want and achieve all of your dreams and goals. It’s your choice.

Start listening to the voices in your head. Use your conscious mind to determine what is true and what is not true. Use your conscious to record and establish new positive beliefs about yourself and your future.

So many people think, “If I only had complete confidence ….

• I’d start my business
• Get married
• Find my dream job
• Move to another city
• Buy a house
• Ask so and so on a date
• Ask for a promotion
• etc etc …..

Many people think they need complete confidence right now to accomplish their dreams. This is what stops them dead in their tracks. This one belief is the reason they will never achieve their dreams.

Building Confidence begins when you take the first baby step.

Have you ever watched a baby as they learn to walk?

My 9 month old grandson just took his first step the other day. He will be holding on to something, and see something he wants a few feet away, begin walking towards and then he just stops. He looks confused and bewildered as he turns around and notices he can’t grab a hold of the object he just let go of. Usually he’ll just sit on the floor and then crawl to his destination.

Babies never give up. They see “big people” walking around and they instinctively know that they can walk too. They may fall down hundreds of times, but each time they get up. And it seems that each time they get up and decide to walk again they inevitably take a few more steps than they did the last time.

I know this is just the beginning for him. Within a month or two he’ll have the confidence he needs to be walking everywhere and exploring his new found freedom.

My grandson does not have complete confidence in walking – yet. His confidence will grow with each and every step he takes.

When you begin taking the necessary steps towards your goal – you too, will look back and say …  WOW, how did I get here?

How do you take baby steps?

Building confidence to land your dream job:

1. The first step would be to find out everything you can about the job. What knowledge and education is required to land the job?

2. Then you could sign up for a course that will give you some of the education you need.

3. You could even start applying for entry level jobs in the same industry.

Another example:

Building confidence to move to another city:

1. The first step will be to research the city. You’ll want to know the best areas in town, the crime rate, the medical facilities, the job market, the schools etc.

2. Then you could contact a rental agency or a Realtor and ask them to send you information regarding relocation

3. If you own your own home, you can contact a Realtor in your area to give you a free assessment on your home. How much can you sell it for? How much could you rent it for? What fees will you be responsible to pay?

4. Next you could visit the city you want to move to, to acquaint yourself with it. Drive around the neighborhoods. Find out where the locals go. What type of shopping is available?

5. Then you might want to check out how much it would cost to move; truck rentals, packing supplies, moving companies.

6. Next you should ask yourself the following questions: What would you take with you? What could you sell at a yard sale? What would you need to buy once you move to the new city?

As you can see in both examples the FIRST STEP is to research your goal. The more you research; the next steps will logically fall into place in your mind.

As you complete each step, your confidence grows. You begin to believe that you actually can have your dream job. The more you believe the more steps you will take which will lead you to your job.

What is it that you’ve been missing out on because you’re waiting for complete confidence?

Begin building confidence today by taking your first baby step.

Have you allowed your emotions to bottle up inside you? Bottling up your emotions can create havoc with both your physical and your mental health.

It’s important to learn to master your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Learn to share them in a positive manner so that they don’t cause you or anyone else undue stress or harm.

One of the best ways to manage your emotions and improve your health at the same time is by expressing gratitude. You can find something to be grateful in almost every situation.

What are you thankful for right now?

Who matters in your life?

Can you name 5 things that you are grateful for?

Even when the world seems to spinning out of control around you, there are many things that you can be grateful for.

Share your gratitude with others. Other people may not know how much you appreciate them. You cannot know another person’s feelings or thoughts and shouldn’t assume they know yours. Tell everyone that means something to you – how grateful you are for them.

What do you think will happen when you share your heart felt gratitude with those you love? Can you see them smile? Can you see their eyes light up?

When you share your gratitude with others it helps your heart, mind and body thrive. A flood of chemicals are released into your body – It feels good! Both you and the receiver will benefit.

There are many physical objects that you may have that you are grateful for. Have you ever thought about sending a thankful message to the manufacturer? Customer service probably gets bogged down with complaints – How nice it would be for them to hear of your gratitude! Give them some of your gratitude and you’ll spread joy all around!

Sharing gratitude is easy and only costs you a little bit of your time. Here are some simple ideas to start sharing gratitude with others.

* Tell your loved ones you care for them
* Hug a friend who’s hurting
* Smile at a stranger
* Open the door for a stranger
* Offer a stranger a helping hand
* Make time to listen to someone who needs to talk
* Appreciate the beauty of nature
* Volunteer your services
* Greet everyone with a smile
* Wish all you come into contact with a “Great Day!”

Focus on What Really Matters

Many people are unhappy with their current circumstances. They may feel like they don’t have enough money, a good job, the house they want or the car they want. They don’t realize that the only way to change their current circumstances is to begin changing their thoughts.

You can begin to change your thoughts by being connected with what really matters. Be grateful for all that you have been given. Be grateful for your home, your bed, your carpet, your clothes, your car – EVERYTHING.

There will be obstacles and stumbling blocks in life, but there is joy all around you as well. When you tap into that joy, keep a positive attitude, and show how grateful you are, you’ll prove that you’re able to let go of unnecessary baggage. It’s a great feeling, and one that you can give yourself, today, right now. What a wonderful thing to be grateful for!

Excellence is better than perfection because perfection is static while excellence is evolving. Mistakes are required to reach higher and higher levels of excellence. Excellence stretches and has contingencies and flexibility to take advantage of less than perfect situations and transform circumstances to make the outcome better than anyone could have imagined.

Perfection is fragile, while excellence is prepared for just about anything and bounces back stronger to overcome that which it was not prepared for. Something new always comes along to throw a monkey wrench in perfection. When that happens, perfection gets flustered, frazzled, and completely broken because it neglected to expect the unexpected.

Excellence welcomes tests and challenges as opportunities to expand knowledge and wisdom. Excellence understands that truth changes with our consciousness and perception. Reality is rearranging and cannot be stopped from constantly changing. Perfection cannot handle that kind of stress. If it is all not done and if it is all not complete, than it is not perfect. It is never done and it is never complete, so the illusion of perfection can never last.

Excellence presents itself as willing to learn. Perfection boasts itself as knowing it all. Perfection says it has seen it all before, while excellence takes initiative to open undiscovered doors. Excellence gets down in the dirt to plant seeds for future development. Perfection does not tolerate getting soiled.

Chaos is a fact of life. Excellence takes that into account and perfection does not. Perfection is oblivious to everything except itself and leaves itself dangerously vulnerable to the unknown because it thinks it is invincible, yet can fall to pieces at any moment of time. Falling to pieces is an experience excellence has visited many times and knows how to put the pieces back together in new creative ways and is entertained by the process of becoming more than it was before.

Excellence makes fluid sacrifices for growth. Perfection has attachments and is in a stagnant state of not letting go until inevitable disaster happens. Life is a vibration of flowing cycles. Excellence rides the surf. Perfection does not even like getting a little wet, yet gets totally crushed by the waves. It is not for us to stay the way we are. Fixations never last. You move and have your being in emanations of fluctuation, disintegration, and manifestation. All becomes a part of you because your destiny is to grow.

Excellence seeks out mysteries to know. Perfection only looks at what it already knows. Excellence knows that it does not know. It welcomes the new and is renewed, again and again. Improvement is always possible and plausible. Excellence is not the epitome, so it always contemplates the question… “How can I do better?” Every once in a while it may even ask, “How can I be sure not to screw up next time?”

Excellence is not beyond considering and even seeking out guidance from multiple and diverse sources as helpful ideas can come from anywhere.

On the other hand, perfection never admits its mistakes, is quick to blame and judge others, is always right and never wrong and there is no sense ever arguing with it or even expressing a suggestion. Really, when it gets down to it, well… “Who Needs Perfection Anyway?”

Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing. On many occasions our words are uttered without conscious thought; in fact we rarely stop and think about what we are saying. Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgments and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.

Words have tremendous power. Words give out energy and a message which creates a reaction in others. Everything you say produces an effect in the world. Whatever you say to someone else will produce some kind of an effect in that person. We are constantly creating something, either positive or negative with our words.

Reaction to our words often returns to us often in a multiplied form. For example if I speak words of judgment to a person they will judge me back, probably with more intensity as their judgment has the pain or anger caused by my words attached to it Words of kindness and acceptance will generate a warm and appreciative reaction in a person. That person’s response to the words will be stronger because it will have the emotion created by the words attached to it. The power of words has a ripple effect in our life and those around us.

Recently I came across the work of Dr Emoto, and his studies on water crystals. He took samples of water, froze them and took photographs of the water crystals. He then wrote words on vials of water taken from the same source. The crystals formed in the vials which had positive words, such as love and gratitude, were beautiful. However the crystals in the vials with negative words such as hate and evil were very different, and the water didn’t even form crystals in some instances. Experiments were done using words from different languages, and also by the scientists having no knowledge of what the words meant. The results were similar. More information can be found at by watching the movie “What The Bleep Do We Know”. Although I find the concepts of quantum physics difficult to grasp, the findings of this study on water crystals has had a profound impact on me. The human body is known to be composed of up to ninety percent water. If words had such a significant impact on water crystals, then what is the impact of positive and negative words to our bodies?

An important key to success in life is to understand the power of words. A word is a thought eternalized. Our thoughts do have a great effect on us even though they are internal. What we think effects the way we live our life, it effects our emotions, our attitudes and our behavior. A thought spoken, however, has even more power. It can never be taken back; it is out of our mouth and will have an effect. Our words have even more power than our thoughts because they not only affect ourselves, but the people and the world around us.

Successful people take control of their words, rather than letting their words control them. They are more conscious of their thoughts and words and the power they unleash. Successful people understand that they need to speak positively rather than negatively in order to see success. Successful people are characterized by the words that they speak. They know the importance of speaking words that will build self-esteem and confidence, build relationships and build possibilities. They speak words of affirmation, encouragement, love, acceptance and appreciation.

To see more personal success, the words that we speak need to be in alignment with what we want to see being produced in our life – our vision and our dreams. Your words can determine your destiny. Even more importantly, your words can make a positive difference on the people you interact with every day. Before you speak ask yourself: Is what I am about to say going to uplift the hearer? Will it inspire, motivate, and create forward momentum for them? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust? Will I create a positive or negative ripple effect by speaking out these words? Let’s be determined to unleash the power of words for positive change.

Barbara White, of Beyond Better Development, has a passion to inspire and equip others to experience more success in their life. She is a speaker and trainer in personal development and communication skills in Vancouver, B.C. Canada. Subscribe for her newsletter “Growing Beyond Better”

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From the beginning mankind has endeavored to make better use of time as evidenced by the recording and tracking of time. Beginning with the sundial to the modern calendar, the need to manage time has been a matter of great concern, in the personal as well as the professional arenas of life, for thousands of years.

Time management today integrates diverse methods of recording time, helping to identify obstacles to the efficient use of time. Constructive use in making long and short term goals is the best and easiest way to manage time. There are numerous methods that can be used to help organize and prioritize the goals to be achieved.

The major element in the overall effective use of time is incorporating essentials of the goal setting process. By setting goals and implementing them, in your professional and personal life, you can effectively manage your time and, as a result, become more productive.

“Goals” is a term that includes many specific obligations that need to be accomplished by a certain time-frame; such as household chores on the personal side, and important professional proposals on the professional side. Depending on the amount of time you have to finish them, these obligations are either short-term, medium-term, or long-term.

Short term goals would be your daily goals such as household chores and projects that need to be finished immediately. Using effective management in short-term goals means that a list is created and each goal on that list is completed on a daily basis.

Medium-term goals are usually goals that need to be accomplished in one week to one month. Depending on the amount of time needed to complete these goals, they can be broken down in smaller segments, which you would complete on a daily basis. For example, if you have a project that needs 6 to 7 hours to complete over a one week period, you could break it down into one hour per day increments.

Long-term goals generally take months or years to complete. They would include such things as getting a college degree over a four year period or building your own house over a 6 month period. Long-term goals can and should be broken down into daily, weekly, monthly and even yearly segments.

Let’s take the example of a four year college degree. You will need to research your financial options, register for classes, take and pass required subjects, complete your homework, etc. Thus long-term goals are made easier and less daunting when broken down into smaller segments and completing them one step at a time until the final goal is reached — in this case, your college degree.

Effective time management skills include setting deadlines. Its important to set shorter deadlines for each phase of your long term goals by breaking them down into smaller, more manageable parts. This is the planning process and it requires that you make a commitment to yourself to meet your long term goals.

“We are one big family of people, trying to make our way through the unfolding puzzle of life.” Sara Paddison

For thousands of years people have been attempting to solve the puzzle of life. The problem is that there is not one solution. Each of us has our own unique puzzle to solve. Your puzzle of life will look and feel completely different than anyone else’s.

Each piece of your puzzle has the ability to build confidence and help you to achieve goals you have set for yourself.

The amazing thing about your personal puzzle of life pieces is that you actually have the ability to design the pictures that are on each piece.

You are creating your life – your puzzle pieces each and every moment by the choices you make.

Where Does This Piece of the Puzzle of Life Fit In?

“In our lives, things don’t always go the way we planned them. But life is like a big jigsaw puzzle, and as we enter these circumstances, we’re only able to see one piece.” Mark Martin

You may be holding a particular puzzle piece while trying to figure out where it belongs in the big picture. You are refusing to let go of it. You know that it belongs in your puzzle of life and you are determined to make it fit. You have your mind set on the fact that it belongs. You feel stuck and unable to move forward.

Why not try to set the piece down. Take a good long hard look at it.

Ask yourself; “Is it possible that this piece does not belong in my life?”

Yes it’s possible to have the wrong piece. The piece belongs to another not to you. Are you willing to let it go? Are you willing to look at other pieces?

On the other hand if it is a part of your life, you need to decide where it fits. It could fit in as a learning experience, a challenge, an opportunity or an obstacle for you to overcome to be able to reach the next level in your life. Remember that each piece plays an important part in the way you live and enjoy your life.

Every time a piece successfully fits in your puzzle of life you build confidence – that’s one more challenge that you have overcame – or more peace and happiness that you have shared with others.

Where Is This Piece of the Puzzle of Life?

You may have a section of your puzzle put together – but there is a piece missing right dab in the center. Your mind’s eye tells you exactly what it should look like. You search and search and search some more to no avail. You wonder where in the world it can be.

For some reason you believe this one piece holds the key and will waste countless hours, days, months or even years to find it.

You become obsessed with finding that one single piece. You are blinded to other pieces that surround you that may contain opportunities for love, peace, harmony, wealth, health and happiness.

Sooner or later you give up. You believe that the piece is lost and you will never find it. You go on to another piece … and what happens? You find the piece you were looking for. It doesn’t bring you the joy you thought it would. It does make the picture look more complete, but you now see that it was not the key piece to your puzzle of life.

Are You Forcing the Pieces of the Puzzle of Life?

Other times we are convinced that one piece of the puzzle fits in a particular space. We jam it in. We do whatever it takes to make it fit – without thinking about the consequences.

If you force a puzzle piece to fit where it does not belong – what happens?

It will distort the rest of the picture. Other pieces will appear to fit -where they don’t. Pieces that should go in a particular place won’t fit. It causes confusion, anger and blame.

Creating Your Puzzle of Life

Know that you are the creator of your life. Your life is your choice. You cannot put together another person’s puzzle and they cannot put yours together. Your puzzles may compliment or contrast one another. In life you will be drawn to puzzles that compliment your own.
If you are not where you want to be, then you need to begin today by creating your puzzle of life to resemble those of people that have the type of life you desire.

You have the power to choose your thoughts, your actions, your attitude, your beliefs, and your reactions to every obstacle and challenge you face in life.

It’s your choice how you create your life. Choose to create the life of your dreams while utilizing your gifts to help others.

Is it time to Spring Clean your mind?

Spring is here! And with it comes new beginnings.

What new beginning would you like in your life?

What would you change?

How do you want your life to be different?

Your dreams can come true – as long as you’re ready to spring clean your mind.

Just like your home – your mind can get chaotic with too much stuff! The clutter in your mind includes old ideas, old attitudes, old conversations, old dreams, old hurts and old habits.

Are any of these thoughts actually benefiting you now?

How do you spring clean your mind?

It all begins with choosing to purse a happier lifestyle that benefits both you and your loved ones. It means that you will need to be willing to get rid of anything that no longer works for you. When you let go of the old you are making room for new and exciting opportunities and challenges.

Your mental spring cleaning will require both a conscious choice and dedicated effort on your part.

The first step is to get rid of the weeds you’ve allowed to grow in your mind. Weeds consist of self-limiting beliefs, hanging onto your past and negative emotions. These thought patterns will only lead to more of the same. If you want your life to be different – It’s imperative that you change your thought patterns.

Why are you hanging onto the past?

You could be hanging on to positive or negative memories. Put the past in the past. It is gone. You cannot relive it.

• Clear out the self-doubt. You are worthy of achieving any of the dreams and goals that you have.
• Clean out the blame in your life. Blame is just an excuse for you not to take responsibility for your own life.
• Clean out the anger, hatred and jealousy. It serves no purpose. It does not harm anyone but you. Let it go.
• Throw away impatience and replace it with patience. Remember patience is a habit. Good things will come to you in the right times. Don’t try to rush them.
• Show love and kindness to everyone – even those that have hurt you in the past. Forgiveness washes your mind clear and allows love to flow.
• Stop procrastinating. All it does is set you up to be frustrated and scrambling around while playing “catch up”.
• Laugh! The world can be difficult and scary at times – Find humor in it. Laugh out loud a few times every day – even if you don’t feel like it.
• Maintain a positive attitude. You may not have control over situations or other people – but you can control your reaction and your attitude towards them.
• Count your blessings. Begin each day being grateful for all that you have and carry your grateful heart with you throughout the day.
• Make a list of at least 10 of your dreams. When stress starts to creep in, refocus your mind and energy on your dreams.

You only have a certain amount of space in your heart and in your mind. When you spend your time thinking, doing and reacting to things in the past, planning for and worrying about the future, you are not focusing on the present.

Live in the present.

Don’t miss out on your wonderful life by reliving yesterday or dreaming about tomorrow.

1. Be Present in the Moment
Learn to be where you are right this minute. What is happening right now? Too often many people get stuck in the past. We can not change the past – so let it go. One way of letting go is to simply learn to connect with the present moment. One way to do this is by concentrating on taking long deep relaxing breaths. Focus on your breathing for one or two minutes to bring your attention to the present.

2. Know Who You Are
What makes you happy? When do you feel the most fulfilled? Learn to express your self by doing things you enjoy. Whether your passion is art, music, writing, photography, sports, speaking, mathematics or gardening, it will have a therapeutic effect on you where you feel whole and at peace.

Your passion, talents and strengths is what make you unique. Knowing who you are and what you want out of life builds confidence. What other people say or think will have less of an impact on you.  Discover Your Authentic Self and begin your journey today.

3. Know Your Strengths
Discover your strengths. Make a list of a few things you’re good at and a few things you’re interested in and would like to be better at. If you’re feeling stuck, ask your family and friends what your strengths are. They often see you in a much more positive light than you see yourself.

4. Acknowledge Your Successes
What have you excelled in? What have people complimented you about? Take pride in every accomplishment – whether it be meeting a deadline, getting a new job, or teaching a child how to tie his shoe.

5. Embrace Your Failures

• Learn from your failures. What was good – and what was bad about the failure? Where do you go from here?
• You become stronger and gain confidence each time you fail and begin again with a new idea or challenge.
• Your are 1 step closer to success. Take a hint from Edison when he said “I haven’t failed, I’ve found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”
• Remember that n o one is keeping track of your failures. In general, people are too involved in their own life to really care about your failures.

6. Face Your Fear
Our deepest fear is making a decision. We stand at the door of opportunity, with our hand on the doorknob, our legs shaking, our hands trembling … “Should I?” or “Shouldn’t I?” You may feel as if you have a million reasons to take action, and a million reasons not to.

If you are stuck in fear, you are closed up. You have created the barrier that keeps you from going where you want to go.

Once you make the decision and go forward the fear disappears and is replaced with a high level of self confidence. You have just opened the door to a whole new world that awaits you.

7. Manage Your Mind
Self-Confidence begins with your thoughts. Learn to defeat negative self-talk. Negative feelings are things you created in your own mind. Lighten up and learn to pat yourself on the back. Tell yourself that you are worthy, you are capable, you are loving, you are unique!

Be aware of your thoughts and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Be aware of your attitude towards yourself and other around you . You will get back what you portray out to the world.

Visualize yourself how you want to be. Visualize yourself taking the actions you want to take. Visualize the life you want. Visualization is simply a rehearsal for real life.

8. Set Goals
Goal setting is the key to attaining everything in your life. If you don’t have goals, you are letting other people and the world around you to dictate your life.

Setting smart goals is simply a process for you to create the life you want. Every time you set a goal and you achieve it, your self-confidence skyrockets.

9. Be Prepared
Be prepared for lifes ups and downs. Know that nothing will ever be perfect – including you. Be prepared by learning what you need to know in order to take the required action for you to get to where you want to go.

10. Take Action
How often have you wanted/needed to do something and then sat around finding excuses not to do. Finally you can’t procrastinate any more so you get up and do it. The action usually is less tedious than you expected to be. Once you’re done you have a sense of accomplishment and increased self-confidence.

So know what steps you need to take and take action. Each step moves you closer to your goal and every small win makes the path in front of you brighter. Building self-confidence comes naturally while you’re on the road to success.

11. Be Committed
Being committed means you will not stop until you have accomplished your mission. When obstacles and challenges come your way – you will find a way to destroy them, go around them, or go dig a tunnel through them. On your journey don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. That is nonsense. Focus on learning from the people who have accomplished what you want to achieve. They have already proven that it’s not impossible.

When you are committed to your goals, you will find that the people and resources that you need will appear at just the right time.

12. Love Yourself
Love and accept yourself just as you are. Each of us have been given our own unique gifts and talents. No one is perfect and know that even the most self-confident people have insecurities. All of us feel that we lack something at some point. It’s part of this bumpy highway called life.

Take time to do loving things for yourself. Pamper yourself. Take good care of yourself with proper diet and exercise. Learn to meditate. Loving and accepting yourself is one of the key ingredients to building your self-confidence.