How to Build Self-Confidence
1. Be Present in the Moment
Learn to be where you are right this minute. What is happening right now? Too often many people get stuck in the past. We can not change the past – so let it go. One way of letting go is to simply learn to connect with the present moment. One way to do this is by concentrating on taking long deep relaxing breaths. Focus on your breathing for one or two minutes to bring your attention to the present.
2. Know Who You Are
What makes you happy? When do you feel the most fulfilled? Learn to express your self by doing things you enjoy. Whether your passion is art, music, writing, photography, sports, speaking, mathematics or gardening, it will have a therapeutic effect on you where you feel whole and at peace.
Your passion, talents and strengths is what make you unique. Knowing who you are and what you want out of life builds confidence. What other people say or think will have less of an impact on you. Discover Your Authentic Self and begin your journey today.
3. Know Your Strengths
Discover your strengths. Make a list of a few things you’re good at and a few things you’re interested in and would like to be better at. If you’re feeling stuck, ask your family and friends what your strengths are. They often see you in a much more positive light than you see yourself.
4. Acknowledge Your Successes
What have you excelled in? What have people complimented you about? Take pride in every accomplishment – whether it be meeting a deadline, getting a new job, or teaching a child how to tie his shoe.
5. Embrace Your Failures
- Learn from your failures. What was good – and what was bad about the failure? Where do you go from here?
- You become stronger and gain confidence each time you fail and begin again with a new idea or challenge.
- Your are 1 step closer to success. Take a hint from Edison when he said “I haven’t failed, I’ve found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”
- Remember that n o one is keeping track of your failures. In general, people are too involved in their own life to really care about your failures.
6. Face Your Fear
Our deepest fear is making a decision. We stand at the door of opportunity, with our hand on the doorknob, our legs shaking, our hands trembling … “Should I?” or “Shouldn’t I?” You may feel as if you have a million reasons to take action, and a million reasons not to.
If you are stuck in fear, you are closed up. You have created the barrier that keeps you from going where you want to go.
Once you make the decision and go forward the fear disappears and is replaced with a high level of self confidence. You have just opened the door to a whole new world that awaits you.
7. Manage Your Mind
Self-Confidence begins with your thoughts. Learn to defeat negative self-talk. Negative feelings are things you created in your own mind. Lighten up and learn to pat yourself on the back. Tell yourself that you are worthy, you are capable, you are loving, you are unique!
Be aware of your thoughts and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Be aware of your attitude towards yourself and other around you . You will get back what you portray out to the world.
Visualize yourself how you want to be. Visualize yourself taking the actions you want to take. Visualize the life you want. Visualization is simply a rehearsal for real life.
8. Set Goals
Goal setting is the key to attaining everything in your life. If you don’t have goals, you are letting other people and the world around you to dictate your life.
Setting smart goals is simply a process for you to create the life you want. Every time you set a goal and you achieve it, your self-confidence skyrockets.
9. Be Prepared
Be prepared for lifes ups and downs. Know that nothing will ever be perfect – including you. Be prepared by learning what you need to know in order to take the required action for you to get to where you want to go.
10. Take Action
How often have you wanted/needed to do something and then sat around finding excuses not to do. Finally you can’t procrastinate any more so you get up and do it. The action usually is less tedious than you expected to be. Once you’re done you have a sense of accomplishment and increased self-confidence.
So know what steps you need to take and take action. Each step moves you closer to your goal and every small win makes the path in front of you brighter. Building self-confidence comes naturally while you’re on the road to success.
11. Be Committed
Being committed means you will not stop until you have accomplished your mission. When obstacles and challenges come your way – you will find a way to destroy them, go around them, or go dig a tunnel through them. On your journey don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. That is nonsense. Focus on learning from the people who have accomplished what you want to achieve. They have already proven that it’s not impossible.
When you are committed to your goals, you will find that the people and resources that you need will appear at just the right time.
12. Love Yourself
Love and accept yourself just as you are. Each of us have been given our own unique gifts and talents. No one is perfect and know that even the most self-confident people have insecurities. All of us feel that we lack something at some point. It’s part of this bumpy highway called life.
Take time to do loving things for yourself. Pamper yourself. Take good care of yourself with proper diet and exercise. Learn to meditate. Loving and accepting yourself is one of the key ingredients to building your self-confidence.
