When I read the following I just had to write a post giving my 2 cents worth …
I read just one phrase that made me wanna slap myself.
“Good work! Give yourself a pat on the back, look in the mirror and tell yourself ‘I’m Awesome!”
Are you kidding me? What’s this hokey pokey blabbady blah advice? Look at myself in the mirror and say I’m awesome? WHO DOES THAT?
Read the full article at I Will Fight …
First off, I want to say I know the fighter personally and have a lot of admiration and respect for him. He has overcome a lot.
In regards to the hokey pokey blabbady blah advice – there are plenty of people that need to hear and read that type of advice. I have no idea what book he is referring too – but I’m sure I’ve read similar.
I work in Social Services. Every day I see battered women and abused children come into our office. They are crying out for help but have no idea what type of help they need.
In response to Who Does That? (Look in the mirror and say I’m Awesome) …
The types of people that need to do this are …
The ones who have grown up in physically and mentally abusive homes. They have no self worth. Sadly, they spend their lives thinking their only job is to please other people. In order to get love they have to behave in a certain way.
People like a young 20 year old man that came into the office the other day as a last ditch effort for help. He had almost hung himself with an extension cord. He felt like he was of no value.
During the recovery process people like this not only need counseling but they need a lot of positive self-talk. Unfortunately not everyone whom could benefit from counseling utilizes it. Many people who are trying to make sense of their life and who are struggling to get out of the situation they are in will pick up a book and read it – trying to find anything that would help.
So my advice to Fighter is to maybe think twice before posting the review of the book he is reading. Self Help and Self Improvement fall into too many categories to lump them all together.
The fighter probably benefits most from self-help that helps him achieve his next goal – or how to handle certain business problems etc.
I would also gamble that highly successful business men such as the fighter use other forms of self-talk all the time. They just usually don’t need to overcome the same issues a person with self-esteem does. (Note that they could have began with the same self-esteem issues). Therefore they don’t constantly have to tell themselves that they are a valuable human being with something to give this world.
A person that is seeking self-help due to a low self-esteem, because of the abuse they suffered needs touchy feely books and programs that helps them learn to love and value themselves – by patting themselves on the back and saying “I’m awesome!”.
Only when one learns to value themselves can they go on to the next level of self-improvement.
I’m talking from experience. I was a physically & mentally abused child – my dad broke my ribs when I was 14. I then married a very controlling man. By the time I reached 30 I felt I had no value in myself. I didn’t feel as if my life was worth living. I felt unworthy of love or friendship.
It was by looking at myself in the mirror every single day and telling myself that I was a valuable loving human being worthy of being loved that I was able to find myself and fight my way to the next level …