This fact does not excuse men to from not talk. It is the men who “clam up” and refuse to talk. There are also cases where men who do more talking than women, just as there are cases where it is the women who talk a lot as well as those women who do not wish to talk a lot.

There is actually no clear cut or fool proof way to judge who should do more of the talking or who should do less. It is primarily not about gender but about the individual themselves.

Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Openness and honesty is a key ingredient to maintaining a kind of memorable relationship that is mutually loving and emotionally comfortable.

The following are tips and possible activities one can do to get yourself or your partner to talk his/her heart out, and share voluntarily any fears and insecurities that either feels. Conversation helps partners form a solid bond that will not be easily eroded.

Ask and you shall receive

The best and simplest way to get a person to talk is by asking a question.

It is best if the partner asks his/her partner how the day went or how they feel.

Often it is best that partners ask each these questions after hours they have been apart most of the day; after work or after a long business trip, etc.

But do not forget it is also important to ask sincerely looking straight into their eyes. Ask how he or she is feeling or has he/she experienced something they want to share? Sometimes the partner may not want to talk. Relax, let it be and be patient. Relationships are nurtured by respecting each others decision – everything has its own proper time and place. Do not force it.

Let him or her finish

A very annoying habit some partners have is finishing the other partner’s sentences. Though you may have good intentions, when you think you are helping, the fact is – doing so creates the impression that the partner is getting impatient with the verbally challenged approach to sentence construction. The partner being corrected could either find this act rude.

Go with the flow. Trust your partner’s judgment and verbal prowess. He or she will thank you for it in the long run.

Stop, look and listen

The most important advice anyone could receive is irrelevant if the one receiving the advice is not listening. They key to communication is in listening just as much as it is in the talking.

One partner sometimes gets the other to talk by simply listening intently to what the other is saying. This gives the impression that what the other is saying is important. Verbal signals are just as important as non-verbal ones. Active listening is a good practice any time. It breaks down barriers and puts down any or all reservations one partner may have. But do not just listen, value what the other partner is saying. All it really takes is an ear and a heart to validate anothers existence.

In summary, fears and insecurities are a part of everyone’s psyche. All one has to do is to share it in order to lighten any emotional load he or she may be carrying. But it is also similarly important that the one it is being shared with is listening and genuinely cares what the other is talking about. Sharing makes everyone human and humane. And it is a valuable gift that both women and men must cherish.

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, Hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

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When you were young did you imagine how wonderful it would be to get married? You’d marry your prince or princess and live happily ever after?

Marriage can be wonderful – but not all of the time. Reality is that life settles in and there will be ups and downs. There will be times when you wonder if it’s all worth it. You might even think leaving your spouse is the best option.

You should continually be looking for ways to improve your marriage. There’s always room for improvement – regardless how good your relationship already is.

7 Tips for a Happy Marriage

1. Forgiveness

There is no perfect relationship – or person – so you need to expect disagreements. Remember that forgiveness can immediately smooth over rough situations in an instant. Never ever hold a grudge or bring up past hurts.

2. Respect

You should always show respect towards your spouse. After-all they should be the most important person in your life – your best friend. Be attentive to one anothers needs. Remember common courtesies by thanking your spouse for things they do for you. Don’t be little your spouse to anyone.

3. Honesty

Honesty is always the best policy. Keeping secrets from your spouse will inevitably lead to treacherous times.

4. Humor

Take the time to have fun with your spouse. Crazy antics and jokes decrease tension and bring you closer. Let your hair down and see just how much fun you can have together. Life is too short to be serious all of the time. Enjoy each others company.

5. Communicate

You should be able to tell your spouse immediately if they upset you in any way. Be open and honest – not accusatory. Be sure that your spouse knows your dreams and inspirations – your likes and dislikes. In addition don’t forget to complement one another.

6. Decide Together

Any decisions regarding finances, education and upbringing of children, household chores vacations etc should be decided together. Every ones best interest should be taken into consideration.

7. Love and Intimacy

Remember these are two different things even though they go hand in hand. Keep each others fuel burning. Surprise one another with a gift of affection. Enjoy every new discovery with your spouse.
It is easier said than done, but each has to remember that marriage is one hundred percent love. They must enjoy every new discovery and every new day with their spouses.

Marriage is wonderful and a bit complicated. But as long as the partners know that they have each other to hold on to, it should be a rewarding relationship.

Be there “for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and till death do you part”

After being together for several years, married couples often become so used to each other that they both forget to spice up their marriage with romance.
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The secret to a happy and healthy marriage is to re-vitalize it by constantly thinking of new ways to show love and appreciation to each other. Think of ways that you can make your spouse feel how important they are to you.

5 Tips to ReIntroduce Romance Into Your Marriage:

1. Reminisce About the Good Times …

Remember all the happy times you had together. Turn bad times around by remembering the love and happiness you shared during the good times.

Take walks together and talk about funny things that happened – laugh together. Walks are great to keep the communication open and improve your relationship.

2. Relive the Happy Times

If you had a fantastic first date – why not relive it?
My first date with Mike was breakfast at Denny’s and then miniature golfing. Every few years, Mike will surprise me by taking me to the same exact places again. Its fun and it’s romantic!

Visit the romantic vacation spot where you celebrated your honeymoon or anniversary.

3. Court Your Spouse

Schedule regular dates. Having some “alone time” can really liven things up a bit and put the romance back into your marriage.

It’s important to spend time alone … Away from your kids, your house and your work. It’s time to concentrate on making each other feel good.

4. Compliment Your Spouse

Nobody ever turns a good compliment down. As a couple, freely complimenting each other – and doing this often – would help put the romance back into your married life.

Also, over the years, you tend to overlook the basic things like thanking our spouse for a favor done, or complimenting her on looking great or saying I love you.

If you just go back to basics and not forget these simple courtesies, you will have a more respectful relationship that you both will be contented with.

5. Take Care of Yourself

One of the most effective and sure fire ways to put romance back into your married life is by improving your appearance. If you have had your hair done in a certain style for years, why not try to change it to look a little different?

Having your partner see you in a new light will may put the passion back into your marriage.

All in all, you still need to “work” on keeping your marriage strong and alive.

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