Your own negative emotions can be one of the top obstacles you face in living a happy fulfilling life. Negativity is extremely destructive to your level of self-confidence.

Negative emotions are any feelings you have that make you feel bad. It’s perfectly normal for you to have bad thoughts and feelings at times.

Remaining stuck in a prolonged negative emotional state is something you should avoid. Thinking negative thoughts all of the time will drain you of energy, create additional stress, destroy relationships and cause physical illnesses.

When you feel bad it’s difficult to focus. It’s difficult to think clearly when making decisions. Negative emotions stop us from thinking and behaving rationally. Your feelings can literally make or break you. Have you ever known anyone who ruined their life because of their inability to manage their emotions?

Long lasting bouts of negative emotions can stop you enjoying life. Some of the most common negative emotions are anger, blame, discouraged, fear, guilt, inferiority, jealousy, loneliness, resentment, sad, unsafe, untrusting and worthlessness. All of these feelings cause you to be miserable. They make you dislike yourself as well as others.

You’ve heard the sayings: “Negativity breeds negativity “and” Misery Loves Company”? These sayings came to be simply because negative emotions create more negativity – On the positive side positive emotions create more happiness and joy. If you hang around the whiny negative people their negative emotions will rub off on you. Surround yourself with loving, positive people and their positive emotions will also rub off on you.

Your emotions are determined by what you think and what you feel. According to Merriam-Webster’s Medical Dictionary: Emotion – “A psychic and physical reaction subjectively experienced as feeling and physiologically involving changes that prepare the body for action—”

Do you know what one trait will help you overcome all of your negative emotions?

It is Self-Confidence. When you are confident you naturally feel good about yourself and others. You take total responsibility for your successes and failures. You understand your life is shaped by your thoughts. Your reality is your perception of everything around you.

When you develop self confidence you forgive others. You understands other peoples actions and feelings cannot directly affect you – unless you allow it. It’s been said that other people’s opinion of you is none of your business.

Self confidence is simply your belief in yourself and your abilities.

Empower yourself to find out who you really are so that your confidence will soar. A great way to grow, to stay motivated and to become positive is to listen to motivational audio programs.

Jack Canfield of the popular “Chicken Soup for the Soul” has developed an audio program that will help you gain confidence and rid yourself of negative emotions such as anger, guilt and sadness.
Get “Maximum Confidence: 10 Steps to Extreme Self-Esteem” now.

Negative emotions and feelings are often obstacles in our life. Every day we are making choices. We have problems to solve and need to communicate effectively with others. If our emotions aren’t’ in check we might jump to the wrong conclusions.

You may be wondering exactly what an obstacle is. It’s a barrier – something that interferes or prevents the required action needed for us to progress. When we let our emotions and feelings control our reasoning.

You may not realize that you can control your feelings. It won’t come easy, it will take time, but the results are definitely worth it. The first step is realizing that most of our emotions are learned habits.

As young children we see how our parents and other around us respond to various situations. We note their emotions and feelings and link those emotions and feelings with the situation. For example we will often see people respond to anger with anger and resentment, thus we believe this is the correct response.

Many people are taught to hide their emotions – such as “Boys don’t cry”. Even though the emotions are buried; the thoughts and feelings still come into play when making decisions – even the most logical ones.

Emotions and feelings become large obstacles when we focus on them, and let them control our every move. Especially negative emotions like anger, depression, disappointment, discouragement, doubt, envy, fear, guilt, depression, resentment, shame, stress and worry.

Negative emotions zap us of energy. We can become entrapped in a sea of negativity. One complaint leads to another to another to yet another …

Negative feelings often lead to negative actions – how often have you said something you shouldn’t have out of anger? When you’re feeling negative your subconscious actually looks for other things to be negative about.

A good example of this a woman might say “My husband never takes out the trash”. Her friend will say “Yeah, I know the feeling, my husband never takes out the trash either and to top it off he will leave trash lying all over the house.” This can often become a competition of whom has the worst husband. Then when the husband gets home the wife is mad at him and he has no idea why.

If a person consistently thinks, imagines and talks negative, it destroys any positive work they may be trying to accomplish. The person will eventually become negative in all areas of life. Their energy will be drained. They will be unable to see the good in anything. They will believe they are doomed for failure. They will literally be drowning with negative feelings.

Just about any excuse we make for not doing something usually is based on negative emotions and feelings. You may be fearful of failing – or even succeeding. How would your family and friends treat you differently if you actually succeeded?

You may not want to disappoint the people you love. You may be discouraged because of things so called meaningful people have told you.

To live a happier and fuller life you need to let go of the negative emotions you’re carrying around and replace them with happy positive feelings.

If you’re ready to say good-bye to negative emotions that are blocking you from taking action to achieve what you truly desire …. Open your mind to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s new way of thinking — the “Excuses Begone“ in which he shows you a step by step process to align your thoughts and feelings to a higher place.

If you have any self-sabotaging thoughts at all, I urge you to put Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “Excuses Begone“ program to work for you today and start attracting and fulfilling your most challenging desires.

Years ago I was going through a very tough time. My mom had just died, I was having major marital problems, found out my dad a brain tumor and my teenage daughter was being quite rebellious.

Needless to say I wasn’t in the best of spirits. I was very depressed and was hanging on by a thread. To top it off I was working mandatory 60-hour weeks at a job I couldn’t stand.

I would get called into the managers office several times a week. I’d usually be written up for “my tone of voice”. Used to upset me quite a lot! I’d say I could not help my tone of voice. It wasn’t like I was yelling or anything; I never cursed or said anything derogatory.

I began seeing a psychologist so I could sort out all the problems in my life. One of my assignments was to stop whatever I was doing, and write down my thoughts several times per hour.

After a couple days I couldn’t handle my thoughts any more. Every single thing I wrote down was negative. A lot of it was stupid stuff – like ….

“That dress looks ugly on Mary” or “Sue is gaining weight”

This was a real “Light-Bulb” moment for me. No wonder I had a “tone of voice”. Every thought I was having was negative and condescending to others or to myself. My negative thoughts were flowing out – not only in my tone but in my actions – which were making people feel like I was being hostile.

From that time forward every time I would have a negative thought, I’d immediately replace it with a positive thought – such as “Mary’s hair looks nice today.”

It was amazing how quickly things changed. People stopped complaining about me and life at work became bearable.

Learn to be aware of your thoughts and make a conscious effort to always think positive thoughts.