We need to feel connected to other people.
We need to feel love and acceptance.
Naturally the first relationships we have are with our parents. We look to them care and nurture us. We learn so much from them – good and bad depending upon their beliefs and morals.
As we grow older we develop friendships – both platonic and romantic.
Many of us become parents ourselves.
We continue to learn from every person we develop a relationship with.
And then there are acquaintances – people we know. We might hang out with them some times, but their lives don’t really intertwine with ours. They’re usually not our first choice to go to dinner with. Their life struggles don’t personally affect us in any way.
We learn to share. We learn team-work. We develop likes and dislikes.
We tend to gravitate towards people we look up to. This could also be people we fear.
I always told my kids, “Be careful of who you hang out with, because you will develop some of their traits.”
It’s just human nature. I think that’s one of the reasons why it’s so easy for couples to finish each others sentences. The more time you spend with some one, the more like them you become.
I believe that the relationships we have with others determines our true character. Family and friends will be there in our times of struggle – strangers and acquaintances will scarcely be seen.
In the movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” Clarence the Angel writes
“Remember, George: no man is a failure who has friends.”
With friends and people by our side we can accomplish anything.
It’s important that we build strong relationships with those we love. They are the ones that matter the most to us. We should always treat them as such. Never take them for granted.
Value the unique aspect of each individual. Can you imagine how boring life would be if we were all the same?
Treat everybody with respect. Accept people where they are. Allow them to make their own choices in life.
Remember you can’t change anyone but yourself so …
Concentrate on being the best person and the best friend you can be – and you’ll have no problem establishing and retaining real long lasting relationships.