Children BELIEVE everything their parents tell them –
Whether it’s true or not!
Toddlers cannot determine the difference between
A “Joke” and the “Truth”.
The other day I was sitting in the doctors office and there was a little girl maybe about 18 months old toddling around. She kept falling.
Every time she would fall down her mother would laugh and say
“You are such a Klutz!”
Without exaggerating – I honestly believe the mom said this to her daughter about 5 times during the half hour period we were in the lobby.
I cringed every time she told her daughter “You are such a klutz!” ….
I wanted to jump up and shout
“Why are you telling this precious child that she is a klutz?”
But instead, I decided to stay quiet.
For the life of me, I can never understand why parents tell their small children things like …
- “You’re a klutz”
- “You’re stupid”
- “You’re no good”
- “You’re to slow”
I also cannot understand why parents think that it’s so funny to have their small children say and do things that are/should be totally unacceptable – Such as …
- “Go hit your mom”
- “Tell your dad to shut up”
- “Beat up your sister”
- “Your mom is stupid”
- “You don’t have to listen to your dad”
What are you thinking when you say and do these things???
Think for just a moment …
- How would you feel if someone told you these things?
- Will this behavior be just as cute when your child is 13?
If you continue to tell your child these things, Chances are your child will grow up to be exactly what you’ve been telling them. The little girl at the doctors office will grow up to be a klutz. After all she’s been told that she’s a klutz her whole life.
The child that has been told they are stupid their whole life will do terrible in school. They will not feel capable of getting good grades because they believe they are stupid – regardless of how intelligent they really are.
You’re probably saying …
- “Yeah, right, What about all the successful people like Einstein who was told he was so dumb that he could never have a decent career.”
- “I was told I was stupid and I turned out ok.”
First off Einstein was an exception to the rule. He had an innate ability to believe in himself and to overcome what others were saying. And no one really knows what kind of mental anguish he may have gone through.
Second, Are you really ok? What did you do to overcome the negative remarks made to you?
Do you want your children to go through all the self doubt and challenges you did?
Of course you don’t!
If you want to know the secret to raising super kids – Be sure to pick up your copy of
“How to raise happy confident children” by Brian Tracy today.
- Four behaviors of effective parenting
- How to raise responsible children
- How to communicate with your children on a deeper level
- How to help your child achieve higher grades in school
- How to raise high achievers
- How to help your children stay drug-free
- To manage your time so family comes first
- How to raise super kids
Don’t leave it to chance that your children will overcome the negativity they are forced to deal with day in and day out.
And please don’t say negative remarks to your children!
Your child may not be as fortunate as the Top Motivational Speaker “Les Brown” He was labeled as “Mentally Retarded” by his schoolteachers …
His life was Transformed while in high school when one of his teachers quoted the following Simple Sentence …