When asked what you want many people answer with things like ….
- “I want to make a lot of money”
- “I want to be happy”
- “I want to travel”
- “I want to find Mr/Ms Right”
- “I want to own my own home”
- “I want a good job”
What’s wrong with these answers?
They are too generic. Doesn’t everyone want these things?
You need to dig deeper than these generic answers to determine what it is you really want.
What is a lot of money to you? Exactly how much money do you want to have in the bank? How much do you want to invest? How much do you want to earn? How much will it take each month for you to live the lifestyle you want to live?
Great – You want to be happy … What makes you happy? Singing, dancing, writing, talking, fishing, golfing, bowling, watching TV, creating, crocheting, sewing, reading??? Where are you the happiest at? Who are you the happiest with?
You want to travel … Where do you want to travel – the next city? Certain cities around the world? Which continents? Which countries? Which States? What do you want to do and see while you’re there? How do you want to travel – by foot? By train? By plane? By car?
Ahhh you want to find Mr/Ms Right. It’s everyone’s dream to find their soul mate and live happily ever after. You need to determine exactly what Mr/Ms Right looks like … Does color of skin matter to you? Occupation? Age? Hair? Figure? What personality traits does he/she have … A good listener? A hard worker? Romantic? Likes the finer things in life? What sports does he/she like or dislike? Fitness level? Hobbies? Food tastes?
Owning your own home is one of the all American dreams that are shared by many around the world. Where do you want your home to be? How many stories? How many bedrooms? Baths? Is it a condo or a single family dwelling? Lots of property or just a small yard? Pool or no pool? What type of flooring? What type of countertops? Is it on the beach? On a lake? In the country? In the city?
Wanting a “good job” stems from the old paradigm that you need to grow up, get a good job and you’ll be happy. Jobs are not security like they were once believed to be. What is a good job to you? Is it the pay or what you are doing? Do you want to work for yourself or someone else? Do you want to work for a large company? A small company? The government? What will your job offer you?
Many people are very unhappy today – because they have taken the first job they found and went with it ….
Why do you want it?
After you determine exactly what you want, you need to identify EVERY reason possible that you want it. Every single benefit that it will give you. What joy will it bring you and why? Your reasons need to be personal. The personal you make it the better chance you have of achieving it.
Time to get busy! Get out a piece of paper and find out what you really want and why you want it. Or better yet sign up for coaching session with Cindy.